i have never been one to deny my introverted nature. i will be the first to tell you that i am quiet and reflective, but not at all shy.
i read an article today in body + soul magazine that left me thinking, yes... that's exactly why i am who i am. after finishing the article i decided to do a little more research. here is what i learned ::
according to laurie helgoe, author of introvert power, introverts look at the world from the inside out instead of from the outside in. for this reason, introverts tend to be inward focused, consumed more with the world of ideas than action, she said.
so the reason i spend more time thinking about things than actually doing them is because i am an introvert? perfect.
in an interview with sophie dembling of psychology today, helgoe said, as introverts "we are drawn to ideas, we are passionate observers, and for us, solitude is rich and generative."
i totally agree.
marti olsen laney, author of the introvert advantage, says that extroverts operate like solar panels, drawing their energy from external sources, while introverts operate more like rechargeable batteries, needing time to stop and refuel.
about.com says "an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people."
does this sound familiar to anyone else? at the end of the day, there are few things i would rather do than curl up with a thought-provoking book or daydream about the future. and i want to do it quietly.
when i have a spare hour or two, one of my favorite things to do is to wander the aisles of barnes & noble, grab a stack of books and magazines, and then sit down with a grande latte and my recycled green notebook. to read and daydream about the future. all by myself.
according to jonathan rauch's essay in the atlantic, introverts tend to be "more intelligent, more reflective, more independent, more level-headed, more refined, and more sensitive than extroverts."
i certainly agree that i am reflective, independent, and sensitive... possibly even intelligent.
rauch, like many other authors on the topic, goes on to suggest that introverts "tend to think before talking, whereas extroverts tend to think by talking." and talking. and talking.
now i understand why i have found myself frustrated lately in the company of friends who never seem to know when enough is enough. i wish there was a polite way to say, "you are a very nice person, but please stop talking."i stumbled upon a few personality tests designed to tell me how introverted i am, but i'm certain i didn't need a test to tell me what i already know. but it case you were wondering... here are several personality traits that describe me perfectly ::
*i usually need to think before i respond or speak
*i feel perfectly comfortable with periods of silence in a conversation
*i feel more lonely in a crowd than at home by myself
*i rarely feel bored when i have a few hours alone
*i get grouchy without "me" time
*i like to listen more than i like to talk
*i tend to notice details many people don't see
*i am creative and imaginative
my name is scarlet and i am an introvert (and i wouldn't have it any other way).